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HOW TO GET PARENTS CRUMBLE TO CRUNCH : So, here, Life's greatest of any and all accomplishments, on The World Students Society.   

THE WORLD STUDENTS SOCIETY avails itself of the greatest of honours and privileges, to give and endow, an open life-long membership on every grandparent and parent in the world.

The World students Society rises, to give the grandparents, and parents of all the students in the world, a standing ovation. ''Watch your children, build a beautiful world for themselves and the  future generations.''

With [home] school over and many summer camps cancelled, chances are you've heard the words ''I'm bored'' from a tween/student in your life. A lot is still off the table, and your suggestions - play with the puppy, call a friend - might be met with apathy.

''BOREDOM IS NOT THE RESULT OF A LACK OF THINGS TO DO,'' said James Danckert a  cognitive neuroscientist and co-author of ''Out of My Skull : The psychology of Boredom.''

It's ''a combination mixed-up emotions'' that makes young students feel particularly stuck, 'and an unoccupied mind, that means they don't feel purpose and aren't expressing their abilities, interests and passions.''

John Eastwood, a psychologist and Dr. Danckert's co-author, said that the solution must come from tweens/students and that ''parent's alone can't fix it.''

But as Mary Mann, the author of ''Yawn, Adventures in Boredom,'' noted, there is a role for parents.'' If you're tween isn't engaged in what they're doing, you can help them figure out what will work.''

Be a creative collaborator instead of the boss to help students locate their strengths and talents. Ms. Mann suggested asking your tween. ''What sounds good to you right now?'' or ''When you let your mind wonder, where does it go?''

''I believe the boredom is a gift,'' said John Spencer, an assistant professor at George Fox University in Oregon, a consultant for Parent Lab - which offers online courses for parents - and a father of three tweens.

Research shows that when people's minds wander or when they do rote, meaningless activities, it is a natural path to activity, it is a natural path to creativity.

To encourage creativity, Mr. Spencer has been intentionally incorporating boredom into the tweens'  days during the coronavirus shutdown and continuing into the summer.

''We split their time into four-hour slots,'' he said. ''One is a genius hour, where my kids learn something now, like coding, a language or an instrument.

''There's also a ''maker hour, where they create something : a story, a podcast, a craft,'' and up to an hour of chores and an hour of physical fitness.
''What we found is they incubate ideas during their chores that help them come up with projects, like building pinball machines out of stuff around the house,'' Mr. Spencer said.

Even if you don't want to practise ''intentional boredom,'' here are several boredom-busting, mood boosting tactics from experts.

Perspective without a lecture : When tweens/students complain, instead of telling them what to do, share your experience and let them make decisions accordingly, Dr. Eastwood suggested. So say something like, ''When I feel bored, what worked for me was to do a few minutes of deep breathing to get centered. ''They may roll their eyes, but they can't argue, because you aren't dictating their actions.

Go for the flow : Encouraging your tween/student to go for activities that help with healthy ''flow'' -when you are immersed in something to the point you lose track of time - can help, Dr. Danckert said. So, reading a book, making a vision board, journaling, sketching or knitting works.

Aside from flow, to beat boredom, ''an activity should challenge you, while allowing you to problem -solve within your abilities [like playing chess or a scavenger hunt],'' Dr. Danckert added. ''What doesn't work; passive entertainment like binge watching YouTube or Netflix.

Try something new : Boredom is associated with a sense of time passing more slowly than normal. ''Par of what we are taking away during the pandemic is the looking-forward-to-the-future aspects of life, in the form of trips or camp,'' Ms. Mann said.

So adding something new to the schedule that brings in mystery or discovery - like doing an impromptu TikTok dance competition, eating outdoors for a change, or learning a new game like Pickleball - can provide a positive rush to the brain.   .

An-imperfect present moment : When tweens/students are being creative, avoid attaching pressure to the outcome. ''If your tween is creating a board game, writing a poem or painting, and it doesn't come out perfect, that is fine,'' Ms. Mann said. ''Teach tweens to enjoy the process, rather than attach importance to the final product.''

For tweens who spent much of their pre-pandemic lives running from one activity to the next, it can be a challenge to discover what actually engages them. Perhaps a bit of boredom will be a springboard to permanent insight.

The Honor and serving of the Latest Global Operational Research on Parents, Students, and Education, continues. The World Students Society thanks author Estelle Erasmus.

With hugs and kisses for the Little - God's Angels, in the world : Mayna, Maria,  Hanyia, Merium, Eden, Harem, Sofia, and Ibrahim.

With respectful dedication to the Grandparents, Parents, Students, Professors and Teachers of the world. See Ya all prepare and register for Great Global Elections on The World Students Society :  wssciw.blogspot.com and Twitter - !E-WOW! - The Ecosystem 2011:

''' Bright - Brains '''

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